There are many situations in life that can bring you down whether it is doing bad in a class, friend drama, or just being upset about things in the past. People can live their life beating themselves up about things that they think they cannot change, but in reality they can. Attitudes are the driving factor behind how you can be successful in life. Many times the people that you surround yourself with can brighten up or put a damper on your mood. If you are hanging around people who are always in a bad mood, think they cannot do anything in their lives, or complain all the time, odds are you are going to start feeling the same way. However, if you spend time with people who push you to do better, motivate you on a daily basis, and believe in themselves you will start acting that way as well.
Many entrepreneurs are successful in life because they believe in themselves that they can do something. Like the famous quote from Napoleon Hill,
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.”
If you wake up every morning with a bad mood not wanting to do anything, that’s probably how your day will go. I have trained myself to always see the good in different situations. I take each day as a new start to build something greater than the day before. Many people take failures too seriously, which can really take a toll in your life. They see failures as road bumps that cannot be fixed in the long run, but in reality failures are the way to your successes. You learn from what you did wrong in order to not do that mistake again. Your attitude can take them as failures or they can take them as learning blocks in life.
Bad attitudes can also appear from jealousy of other people. People may want to be like someone they look up to or even their friends, which should push and motivate them to become like them. However, sometimes it can turn into jealousy if they think that the other person is just lucky all the time. Everyone has had that moment of,
“I wish I could do that, or I wish I could be her/him,” well why can’t you?
Why can’t you go start your own business? Be a great speaker? Get a good job? You can and the only thing is stopping you is your attitude.
The many successes that you see people having is from the attitude that they have had in order to pursue it. They have probably failed at it more times than you think, but they pushed themselves to believe that they can and will do it.
There are many components that contribute to someone having either a positive or negative attitude. These three factors can help you govern how you choose to develop your mindset that will help you succeed in the present and future.
Friends
Your friends have more of an impact on the way you act and behave more than you ever thought. Most likely you see your friends almost everyday, you hangout with them, and choose to do things that they enjoy doing. We get caught up in the fun, laziness, and sometimes beliefs on how we start perceiving things. However, that can cause our mind and attitudes to stray away from the main goal in life. Therefore, it doesn’t mean you drop all of your friends, but limit to how much you hang out with them especially if they have a negative effect on you.
Surroundings
Do you work in a dark dingy room or apartment? Or are tired by the fact that you see the same facade when you are working everyday? I know I do all the time. It affects your mood and productivity if you feel unmotivated by the environment that you are working in. Which is why you should switch it up once in awhile! Brighten up your work place by opening windows, putting up art, or going to a local coffee shop to do some work. It will definitely help you get a lot more work done.
Perception
The way you look at opportunities, failures, and life is how you perceive things through your attitude. If you fail and drag yourself down about it, then that’s how you will be feeling for the rest of your life. Someone hands you an opportunity and you are not sure about it? Take it anyways and see where it could take you. Be optimistic about the things giving to you and work with it to gain your empire.
All of these factors are controllable, meaning it is your choice whether or not the people and surroundings that you are around are going to affect you. Next time you feel jealous, mad, angry, or sad, change it and change your attitudes.
Now, I look at the positives of every situation, every failure, every roadblock that gets in my way. Mainly because I know that somehow I will get over it, move on from it, or learn from it.
Sabah Ali
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